Laurie Israel

Massachusetts’ New Alimony Law

June 21, 2012 by  
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By Laurie Israel, lawyer/mediator, Brookline, MA

Alimony is a highly-charged word.  Discussions of alimony generally get the strongest reactions from both men and women when working out the terms of a divorce.   Believe it or not, it’s generally more contentious than custody disputes over children or property division.

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Why Add a Neutral Process Coach to a Collaborative Divorce?

June 16, 2011 by  
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Collaborative divorce combines several elements of the divorce process into an effective whole.  The result is, in general, a divorce that is more closely tailored to the needs and interests of the divorcing individuals (and their children).  But adding a Neutral Process Coach to the mix may provide great value and lead to a better result.

Here are some of the features of collaborative divorce:

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Are California Divorce Laws Bad for Marital Health?

February 14, 2011 by  
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Published in Huffington Post, 2/10/11.

In the US, every state has a different set of divorce laws about distributing assets between ex-husband and ex-wife.  So if you get divorced in California you may end up with a very different financial settlement than if you had divorced in Massachusetts.

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“Divorce Tourism” – American Style

February 14, 2011 by  
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In India, only one out of every hundred marriages fails.  But the divorce rate is rising, especially in big cities, due to changing lifestyles, urbanization, women’s economic independence, and growing prevalence of “western” attitudes towards marriage.  Though the divorce rate is low compared to most developed countries, it has reportedly doubled in the past five years.   At the same time, traditional Indian culture views divorce as shameful, and marital counseling is only just beginning to gain acceptance.

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Why “Contribution” is So Important to a Marriage

November 27, 2009 by  
Filed under Marriage

Recently, I was asked to present an evening workshop by an association of professional women on “How to Negotiate with your Spouse”. I was pleased and surprised that they invited a divorce lawyer to present on this topic (which I call, “How to Get Along with Your Spouse”), but it actually makes great sense. Who but a divorce lawyer is in a great position to see what happens when a couple cannot get along.

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When a Parent Wants to Relocate with a Child

November 19, 2009 by  
Filed under Divorce

Copy of Laurie-Israel-013 2nd Twitter copyWe live in a very mobile society. People come to Massachusetts for their education and for job opportunities from all over the U.S. and foreign countries. This poses a problem when a spouse wishes to go back home  after a divorce– to their state (or home country) where their extended family lives and want to take the children of the marriage with them.  (The technical term for this is “removal”. )

The problem also comes up with job loss and employment opportunities for a spouse who has joint or primary custody of the children. It is a difficult problem for spouses to deal with even in an ongoing marriage. So when spouses are divorcing (or have already divorced), when the level of cooperation and good will may be at a lower point, it is especially difficult.

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